Parenthood

There are so many moments in our life which makes us delight. On those one of the most beautiful moments in our life is Parenthood. Most of us are gifted to experience these nice moments.

Though it is the good feeling for father becoming a parent, it is the mother who flourishes a lot in many ways. Mother is a feeling that she is turning to be a full woman. She has unloaded the load which she was carrying for almost 10 months. She has got a big bless for her lot of sacrifices, patience, tolerance of unbearable pain, fear and so many. Hence she has become a mother so as she is.

She has to be very careful on her food selection from the day 1 of her conceive. It is because the baby inside her womb should not get affected. So she eats most of the food which she doesn’t liked a most. Her inner organs is not stable in the routine process as she doesn’t able to take the food regularly in the early pregnancies. After managing a couple of months without maintaining a normal diet it gets settled to have some normal food. Even then she avoids most of her favorite items like, chocolates, ice creams etc for her baby’s health. She takes lots of fruits till she gets bored to that. She is not able to attend her relative’s functions, friend’s marriages, regular outings and even office works because she should not travel for the baby’s safety. She has to take lot of injections, medicines just to avoid infections and to develop immunity for her baby. Whatever she eats it is for her baby also. She loses her so well maintained physical structure, health, energy. She takes a kind of spice called saffron (kunkuma poo) for her baby’s complexion.

A man facilitates her for all these periods. He gives his full support to her from eating the food till she sleeps. He gets everything that she wants. He gives a moral support to her to complete this project with successful delivery. He holds her hand while walking. He carries all the things with him to give a free hand to her. His shoulders are always ready for her to get rest. He gives her strength. He virtually / mentally carries the baby with him always till the woman does so. Fortunately or unfortunately a poor man can do only this.

So, after a lot of pains and a long waiting a mother gives birth to the baby. A great achievement happens with the re-birth of a mother along with baby. It’s a great feel for that father too for his long wait in his life and as well in the hospital’s corridor. He is again gets busy with the hospital formalities after birth and till the discharge. The parents think that they have reached the climax and everything will go smooth from now onwards and they can take a break for a while. But the life won’t leave you like that…. J

There is something waits for you to look upon.

The next step of parenthood is nurturing the baby.

A mother not getting relaxed after this but a father can do a little or more a little. A mother starts to learn, how to feed an infant. It’s a new experience to her. She doesn’t know even how to hold her child. Slowly she starts knowing everything. A mother has to feed her baby for every 2 hours even in the night time. She lost her sleep almost for first 6 months. Still she maintains her diet for her baby’s health. Whatever she eats it reflects in her baby’s health. So she has to be very careful on selecting her diet. Once a mother stops her breast feeding pace by pace, baby starts eating some semi solid / solid foods. By the time the baby grows. So many delightful moments for parents there too when the baby starts responding to us, turning around, crawling a bit, walking, making sounds, calling us as “amma / appa” etc.,

So parent’s world is taking a entire shift towards their child. They work for their child, cooks for their child, play with their child and forget most of their other activities. Parents literally lost their own world and entering in to their child’s. They start financial planning for their child’s future. Parents hold their child’s hands forever to ensure that the child is safe. The child also grows without facing an issue till it sees the outside world. Parents answer any number of times to their child’s question, they make them everything to understand. They give knowledge. They give wealth. They give strength. They give love. They give extraordinary care.

Parent looks for a best school for their child’s education. They are trying to give everything best as they can do.

I used some words to try to explain the parent’s nature way.

But I am sure that these words were not enough to describe their love, affection, care, sacrifices, tears, patience, tolerance and so many things that they shown towards their baby. And I am sure that there are no enough words also in all the languages.

Whatever the parents character to be… a father may be a bad citizen or a mother may has a cruel mind or both are may be the sadists, or whatever are they in their characters, whether good or bad, they are parents. A parent doesn’t forget to do their duties for their children. They don’t forget to give their love. They don’t forget to give you the best that you need. They give everything to you as much as they can. They never forget to forgive you in so many ways. Parents are parents.

Parents love would not change if days pass by. They love their children the same amount even they are getting old. They love their children the same amount even their children are married.

So it’s the child’s time to repay the amount of unchanged love to their parents. At the time of aged day’s parents requires that child’s love irrespective of their character. A father may be a bad citizen or a mother may be a cruel minded or both are may be the sadists, or whatever are they in their characters, whether they are good or bad, they are parents. A child’s responsibility and duty to repay the entire amount of love and care to their parents irrespective of parent’s character.

It’s also everyone’s responsibility to help or support our brothers, sisters, husbands, wives, relatives to do their duties to their parents, to love their parents, to hold their parent’s hands forever till the end and to take care of them with every care.

We all have different parents, but in their love, affection, caring their children all the parents is same. It is our duty too to treat every parent as our parents. There is nothing we loose by accepting other’s parent as our parents. If we do so, there is nothing we loose if we get scolded by them. There is nothing we loose if they want to prove their intelligence to us. There is nothing we loose by losing to them.

Please don’t restrict your love to your own parents, offer your love to every human beings who are in the parent’s age. Please show the care to them also as you shows it to your parents.

Please don’t show your anger to them, don’t walk with ego with them, and even don’t mind their intended mistakes.

After all they are also parents.

Love all. Serve all. J

MSK