There are so many moments in our life which makes us
delight. On those one of the most beautiful moments in our life is Parenthood.
Most of us are gifted to experience these nice moments.
Though it is the good feeling for father becoming a parent,
it is the mother who flourishes a lot in many ways. Mother is a feeling that
she is turning to be a full woman. She has unloaded the load which she was
carrying for almost 10 months. She has got a big bless for her lot of
sacrifices, patience, tolerance of unbearable pain, fear and so many. Hence she
has become a mother so as she is.
She has to be very careful on her food selection from the
day 1 of her conceive. It is because the baby inside her womb should not get
affected. So she eats most of the food which she doesn’t liked a most. Her
inner organs is not stable in the routine process as she doesn’t able to take
the food regularly in the early pregnancies. After managing a couple of months
without maintaining a normal diet it gets settled to have some normal food.
Even then she avoids most of her favorite items like, chocolates, ice creams
etc for her baby’s health. She takes lots of fruits till she gets bored to
that. She is not able to attend her relative’s functions, friend’s marriages,
regular outings and even office works because she should not travel for the
baby’s safety. She has to take lot of injections, medicines just to avoid
infections and to develop immunity for her baby. Whatever she eats it is for
her baby also. She loses her so well maintained physical structure, health,
energy. She takes a kind of spice called saffron (kunkuma poo) for her baby’s
complexion.
A man facilitates her for all these periods. He gives his
full support to her from eating the food till she sleeps. He gets everything
that she wants. He gives a moral support to her to complete this project with
successful delivery. He holds her hand while walking. He carries all the things
with him to give a free hand to her. His shoulders are always ready for her to
get rest. He gives her strength. He virtually / mentally carries the baby with
him always till the woman does so. Fortunately or unfortunately a poor man can
do only this.
So, after a lot of pains and a long waiting a mother gives
birth to the baby. A great achievement happens with the re-birth of a mother
along with baby. It’s a great feel for that father too for his long wait in his
life and as well in the hospital’s corridor. He is again gets busy with the
hospital formalities after birth and till the discharge. The parents think that
they have reached the climax and everything will go smooth from now onwards and
they can take a break for a while. But the life won’t leave you like that…. J
There is something waits for you to look upon.
The next step of parenthood is nurturing the baby.
A mother not getting relaxed after this but a father can do
a little or more a little. A mother starts to learn, how to feed an infant.
It’s a new experience to her. She doesn’t know even how to hold her child.
Slowly she starts knowing everything. A mother has to feed her baby for every 2
hours even in the night time. She lost her sleep almost for first 6 months. Still
she maintains her diet for her baby’s health. Whatever she eats it reflects in
her baby’s health. So she has to be very careful on selecting her diet. Once a
mother stops her breast feeding pace by pace, baby starts eating some semi
solid / solid foods. By the time the baby grows. So many delightful moments for
parents there too when the baby starts responding to us, turning around,
crawling a bit, walking, making sounds, calling us as “amma / appa” etc.,
So parent’s world is taking a entire shift towards their
child. They work for their child, cooks for their child, play with their child
and forget most of their other activities. Parents literally lost their own
world and entering in to their child’s. They start financial planning for their
child’s future. Parents hold their child’s hands forever to ensure that the
child is safe. The child also grows without facing an issue till it sees the
outside world. Parents answer any number of times to their child’s question,
they make them everything to understand. They give knowledge. They give wealth.
They give strength. They give love. They give extraordinary care.
Parent looks for a best school for their child’s education.
They are trying to give everything best as they can do.
I used some words to try to explain the parent’s nature way.
But I am sure that these words were not enough to describe
their love, affection, care, sacrifices, tears, patience, tolerance and so many
things that they shown towards their baby. And I am sure that there are no
enough words also in all the languages.
Whatever the parents character to be… a father may be a bad
citizen or a mother may has a cruel mind or both are may be the sadists, or
whatever are they in their characters, whether good or bad, they are parents. A
parent doesn’t forget to do their duties for their children. They don’t forget
to give their love. They don’t forget to give you the best that you need. They give
everything to you as much as they can. They never forget to forgive you in so
many ways. Parents are parents.
Parents love would not change if days pass by. They love
their children the same amount even they are getting old. They love their
children the same amount even their children are married.
So it’s the child’s time to repay the amount of unchanged
love to their parents. At the time of aged day’s parents requires that child’s
love irrespective of their character. A father may be a bad citizen or a mother
may be a cruel minded or both are may be the sadists, or whatever are they in
their characters, whether they are good or bad, they are parents. A child’s
responsibility and duty to repay the entire amount of love and care to their
parents irrespective of parent’s character.
It’s also everyone’s responsibility to help or support our
brothers, sisters, husbands, wives, relatives to do their duties to their
parents, to love their parents, to hold their parent’s hands forever till the
end and to take care of them with every care.
We all have different parents, but in their love, affection,
caring their children all the parents is same. It is our duty too to treat
every parent as our parents. There is nothing we loose by accepting other’s
parent as our parents. If we do so, there is nothing we loose if we get scolded
by them. There is nothing we loose if they want to prove their intelligence to
us. There is nothing we loose by losing to them.
Please don’t restrict your love to your own parents, offer
your love to every human beings who are in the parent’s age. Please show the
care to them also as you shows it to your parents.
Please don’t show your anger to them, don’t walk with ego
with them, and even don’t mind their intended mistakes.
After all they are also parents.
Love all. Serve all. J
